Woman Leaves Her Boyfriend Over Fragile Masculinity After He Won’t Buy Her Feminine Products
Living with a partner can be a learning experience especially when it comes to figuring out one another's personal boundaries. One of the earliest "tests" in a relationship is often dealing with that uncomfortable time of the month for women. This woman's story on Reddit has earned her over 31.2k upvotes from people who respect the response she had when her boyfriend refused to buy her pads from the drugstore.
This story starts out with a fairly simple interaction between a boyfriend and girlfriend that ultimately leads to the end of a two-year relationship.
Everybody Knows Someone Who Menstruates, So Why Is It Still So Embarrassing?
Most females know the struggle of getting their period unexpectedly. We've been conditioned to believe it's embarrassing or shameful to accidentally get your period in public.
The reality is that menstruating is a natural part of being a woman and regardless of how far ahead you plan, sometimes Mother Nature has her own agenda.
She Thought That He Was Joking But He Was Dead Serious
Reddit user sadlyambitious shared her story on the thread r/AmITheA-hole describing the night that her boyfriend straight up refused to help buy her pads when she unexpectedly started her period.
At first, she thought he was joking but it soon became clear he was serious.
Their Relationship Was Going Well Up Until This Point
Everyone's period experience is different and this girl felt like she would be too uncomfortable to leave home without pads.
Her boyfriend's harsh refusal to buy them for her completely shocked her and left her questioning him.
He Was Too Embarrassed To Buy Pads From The Cashier
His negative reaction to such a simple request made her realize how insecure and childish he was being.
She pointed out how fragile his masculinity was if he couldn't even handle buying pads for his own girlfriend.
She Had To Make Herself A Pad With Toilet Paper And Go To The Store
Ah, the classic emergency toilet paper pad. It's not comfortable or a long-term solution but toilet paper can save a woman if she's in a bind.
This Reddit user made herself "a makeshift pad" and wore black pants and a long cardigan so that she could make it to the store to buy more.
He Keeps Digging His Hole Deeper By Trying To Explain Himself
When she pressured him he admitted that he (ignorantly) associated males buying menstrual products with trans men.
This is wrong for so many reasons. Most trans men are very private when dealing with their menstrual cycle if they even experience one.
He Stormed Out And Then Ignored Her For Days
After their weird fight about his fragile masculinity, the boyfriend stormed out and then ignored his girlfriend for the next few days.
She began to wonder whether she had pushed him too far and so she posed the question to the popular Reddit thread.
She Asks The Internet If She Is Wrong For Telling Her Boyfriend His Masculinity Was Fragile
The user came to the Reddit thread to get people's opinions on whether she was the a**hole in the situation, or if she was justified in calling out her boyfriend's fragile masculinity.
Redditors were quick to offer her support saying that she was right to call him out and urged her to confront him.
People Online Agreed That The Boyfriend Had Fragile Masculinity
Redditors were definitely on her team, with most people responding "NTA" meaning "not the a**hole."
One commenter pointed out that if her boyfriend can't do something as simple as buying pads, how will he ever help raise a child?
This Commenter Does Not Hold Back
One commenter was particularly harsh in calling out the boyfriends insecurity.
The user suggested having a serious talk with him and consider whether the relationship is worth it. This might have been the first red flag of many to come.
She Confronted Him About Why He Wouldn't Buy Her Pads And Updated The Thread
She had such an overwhelming response to her original question that she provided an update on what happened when she confronted her boyfriend.
She said that her boyfriend thought that she could "hold in" her menstrual blood.
She Broke Up With Him After He Showed His True Colors
The woman ended up having to end her relationship over the whole mess. As expected, he didn't take it well.
She just couldn't get past her boyfriend having such a backward understanding of her experience as a woman.
She Moved Out Of His Apartment And On With Her Life
The woman admits she is heartbroken over leaving someone she loved, but she can't see having a future with someone like that.
I think it's pretty obvious she dodged a bullet! Too bad it took them two years to get this all out in the open.
