Woman Calls Out Fiancé Online When She Finds The Receipt For ‘Small’ Engagement Ring
It's no secret that many women spend a lot of time growing up dreaming about their wedding, thinking about that perfect princess bridal gown they want to wear, and thinking about their ideal proposal that's accompanied by that beautiful diamond ring.
The woman we're here to talk about is no different! She was proposed to by a man she loves, but took to an anonymous forum not to share her wonderful story, but to complain her fiancé didn't spend enough on her engagement ring.
The Excitement Of An Engagement
Getting engaged is an important step that many people spend years looking forward to. A part of that engagement is often the ring that comes along with it.
This is a piece of jewelry that you plan to wear for decades to come, and it's one of the first things people are probably going to ask to see if you're a woman who recently got engaged.
Showing Off The Ring Is Pretty Customary
Your friends and family are going to ask to see your ring, you'll maybe post a few pictures of it on your Instagram or Facebook for everyone to appreciate, and you'll look at it every day—you get the gist.
But what happens when the man of your dreams proposes with a ring that is nowhere close to what you dreamed of?
Sharing A Story With The World (Of Facebook)
One woman in the Facebook group MumsNet was the center of attention after making a now-deleted anonymous post about how she was "disappointed" with the ring her fiance chose because it was too small.
You'll understand why she deleted it soon enough.
The Only Part She Likes Is That It's A Solitaire Diamond
She admits that the diamond solitaire is what she would have chosen, but she doesn't like the color of the gold, the setting, or the small stone.
She also goes on to admit that she found the receipt for the purchase—and feels he didn't spend enough on her.
How Much "Should" An Engagement Ring Cost?
You're allowed to spend as much or as little as you would like on an engagement ring, obviously, but most of us have heard the old adage that you should spend three months' salary on a ring.
It can be a good marker for someone who doesn't know what they should spend, but it's certainly not a hard and fast rule to live by.
And How Much Do You Think You're Worth?
This woman, however, decided that she was worth much more than her fiancé spent on her. The engagement ring in question cost her fiance $1,674.
According to her, he makes a salary that is nearing the 6-figure range, and "he's usually very generous," so she expected him to be dropping some big bucks.
We Never Got To See The Ring In Question
Unfortunately for all of us curious minds, the Facebook post did not include a picture of the actual engagement ring, so you'll just have to use your imagination.
What she defines as "small" might be bigger than the ring your husband gave you. We'll never know!
What To Do, What To Do...
In her post, she writes that she thought he would have spent more money on her for "such a significant piece of jewelry."
No one is debating whether or not she's correct in saying it's a significant piece of jewelry; it's more about how she seems a little ungrateful for it.
She Knows He'll Be Upset If She Tells Him
The woman also says that she knows her fiancé would be upset if she admitted she wasn't happy with the ring, which is why she's making the post.
She turned to Facebook in hopes of getting some friendly advice about what to do and asked if anyone else had ever been in this situation.
The Internet Was Not Helpful
We're not sure what reaction she was expecting to receive from this Facebook group, but she definitely didn't receive any support.
Many other women commented on the post talking about the inexpensive engagement rings they have and emphasizing that it's about the marriage, not the jewelry.
Now I Ain't Saying She's A Gold Digger...
One woman in the MumsNet group even went so far as to suggest that her well-off fiancé might be testing her by giving her a small ring to see her reaction and see if she's only interested in his money.
If this is the case, she definitely did not pass the test.
Some Gave Her The Sympathy She Was Seeking
The majority of the commenters seemed to be in agreement that this woman was being overly materialistic, but a few women did sympathize with her for wanting an expensive piece of jewelry.
However, no one agreed with her exposing her future husband like this.
So What's The Verdict?
The post has since been deleted, but the forum post sparked a conversation.
Is this woman wrong for wanting a beautiful, sparkly diamond ring to wear for the next 40 years? No, but she's also not right for humiliating her fiancé like this.
Facebook Isn't The Only Place To Complain About Your Ring
It would seem that this lady is not the first woman to get engaged and be unimpressed with the size of the ring that their partner purchased for them.
This time, though, we have the groom-to-be who posted to Reddit to talk about his engagement ring debate.
Ready For Your Judgment
In a popular Reddit community where people open themselves up to judgment from the public about whether or not they were at fault in a certain scenario, Reddit user aitaringcheap shared his story.
The user was looking for some outside opinion on whether or not he was in the wrong for buying his fiancée an engagement ring that wasn't worth 10% of his salary.
How Dare He Make Responsible Financial Decisions?
The man clarifies that since the pandemic hit, he's been financially taking care of multiple family members who had lost their jobs, so he felt it was irresponsible to spend 10–15K on a piece of jewelry.
He also added that while he is secure in his job, he didn't want to be making any big financial purchases until after the pandemic is resolved and he is completely secure in his own job.
Picking Out The Perfect Ring
Before you think, "Well, maybe she just doesn't like the ring style and is looking for a way to avoid saying that," that doesn't seem to be the issue here.
This user took his time picking out a ring he knew she would love and paid attention to what his fiancée liked so he could get all the details just right.
Her Mother Swooped In With Her Opinion
All seemed well in the world and his fiancée enjoyed the ring—until her mother got involved. Apparently, his fiancée's mother used to be a jeweler by trade and had some opinions about the ring.
His (maybe) soon-to-be mother-in-law called the ring cheap and accused her daughter's fiancé of not valuing his fiancée.
"Cheap Trash" Seems Dramatic
User aitacheapring also adds in the post that his maybe-fiancée is refusing to speak with him, and her parents are accusing him of "treating her life cheap trash."
We'd argue that it seems like this man is taking great care in making sure he can continue to provide for his child as well as the mother of said child, beyond the value of an engagement ring. The internet agrees with us too.
The Consensus Was Not In Her Favor
Pretty much every Reddit user who responded to the post was validating the original user and siding with the groom, not his fiancée.
The general consensus was that it should be about the significance of the ring and the promise of marriage, not about how many thousands of dollars were spent on a piece of jewelry.
