“Look Out Tough Guys” Stay-At-Home Husband Is Making Marriage Look Like Relationship Goals
It wasn't very long ago that marriage was viewed from a much more patriarchal perspective. The wife's role was in the home making meals for the family and taking care of the children and their husbands.
Nowadays, most young people have a very different view of marriage, if they choose to get married at all.
Maya and Hunter have been dating since high school
One couple living in Southern California is doing their best to reverse the classic gender stereotypes in marriage.
Maya and Hunter, both 24-years-old, started dating when they were just sophomores in high school.
The couple was married in 2021
The couple was married in 2021 and not long after they tied the knot Hunter decided to share a few TikTok videos of what married life looks like for them.
The videos quickly went viral online getting millions of views on their joint TikTok profile @maya.and.hunter.
A recent video shared by Hunter has gained over 7 million views
A recent video captioned "A Day in the Life of a Stay-At-Home Husband" has racked up over 7 million views on TikTok alone.
In the 35-second clip, Hunter can be seen running errands and narrating his activities all done for the benefit of his wife, Maya.
"Sorry, tough guys"
In the clip, Hunter says "Sorry, tough guys. It's another day in the life of a stay-at-home husband."
He continues, "My wife is always trying to sneak in extra work on the weekend, so I grabbed her, her wallet, and headed out on our weekly errands."
Maya works full time and Hunter is a student learning remotely
Maya works a full-time job while Hunter is a student in his second year of law school.
But for the time being, Maya is the "breadwinner" and Hunter is the doting husband who low-key relies on her to keep the finances afloat.
Hunter taunts his trolls in his video narration
In one of their most viral clips, Hunter narrates sarcastically for their followers.
"Some people seem to think I lost my man card, so we went to the farmers market to buy a new one. But they were all out, so I went to Whole Foods and got some flowers for my wife."
His husbandly duties include arranging flowers
The video continues to show the duo finishing up their errands with Hunter narrating the whole process.
"I strapped the groceries to my mancart and got to arranging the flowers. Never give your wife flowers and expect her to arrange them. That's a chore, not a gift."
Maya doesn't have to help around the house
Finally, the couple makes it home where Hunter says "This little girlboss tried to help me clean the floors. So silly. It's her day off."
He then arranges a "reading nook" area with a heating pad and book on the couch before adding "Sunday reset? More like resetting societal norms."
People are obsessed with their relationship dynamic
Commenters were quick to praise Hunter for his domestic skills and openness about being a self-proclaimed "stay-at-home husband."
People were absolutely loving the "girlboss" dynamic that's standard in Hunter and Maya's house.
The series was actually Maya's idea
In another video, Hunter explained that while he's attending law school and on summer break his only real responsibilities are his "stay-at-home husbandly duties."
Maya came to him with an idea about a TikTok trend she had seen.
They were inspired by a cringey TikTok trend
The trend shows a day in the life of self-proclaimed 'stay-at-home daughters' and 'stay-at-home wives' who are living a relaxed life of luxury.
Maya noticed "an obvious lack of male presence in this genre" and made the suggestion to Hunter.
Women on TikTok have admitted their husbands can't wash a dish
Maya also noticed how many women on the platform admitted that their husbands and boyfriends didn't know how to wash a dish, let alone help take care of an entire home.
They saw an opportunity to change the narrative.
Hunter films himself doing basic household tasks to help break stereotypes
Basically, the TikTok trend showed average peoples' incompetence which inspired Maya and Hunter to create their own version.
The couple's videos portray Hunter as a stay-at-home husband in a way that breaks the stereotypical gender roles and "pokes fun" at the whole thing.
The couple have shared over 24 videos in the series
To date, the married duo have made over 24 videos in their stay-at-home husband series and have received an overwhelming response to the videos.
Most of the attention has been full of love and encouragement but not all of it has been positive.
They have no plans to let negativity stop them from sharing their message
Hunter admits to seeing "a lot of hate and negativity" but is adamant that they don't let the hate get to them anymore.
He says the hate comments show them that "the message behind our videos is still against the status quo to some people."
Watch the full stay-at-home husband video on Hunter and Maya's TikTok
The married couple has no plans to let the hate comments slow them down. They're going to "continue spreading [a] message of equality in a relationship" despite any negativity.
Hunter adds "At the end of the day, we truly believe that a partnership must be equal in order to succeed."
