Woman Ridicules Fiancé Who Spent $20K On Ring That Wasn’t ‘Good Enough’
Certain people fantasize about their wedding day. A lot of pressure has been put on the proposal in recent years, with people going to extravagant measures to pull off something elaborate. For others, the idea of spending the rest of their lives with the perfect person is more than enough.
The woman at the center of this story was trying to live out her Kardashian dreams when she ridiculed her man's choice in a diamond.
After The Proposal, His Fiancée Had Concerns About The Ring
An anonymous Reddit user has opened up about his experience buying his fiancée an expensive engagement ring—a $20k ring to be exact.
He headed to the popular r/AmITheA**hole thread to ask the community if he was in the wrong after his fiancée expressed serious concern over the diamond he chose.
Things Were Great Until She Brought This Up...
Here's the back story:
"I (30m) proposed to my (then) girlfriend (27f) of five years last month. It was wonderful and she said yes, and we were never happier," he started. But then, "Last week was when the trouble started, as she asked me how much I had spent on her ring."
She Asked To See The Diamond Certificate
After revealing that he spent many years' worth of savings to purchase a $20K ring, his fiancée was shocked that he had managed to get a large 3.6-carat diamond for such a reasonable price.
She asked him to see the diamond certificate which he assumed was because she suspected the stone was fake and that he had been "duped," so he provided her with the paperwork.
She Was Upset The Diamond Was Lab-Grown As It Wasn't A "Real Diamond"
He was completely floored when his fiancée revealed that she was upset the stone was lab-grown and not a "real diamond."
She believed that since the diamond was grown in a lab it was not the same quality as a natural stone.
Her Friends And Mother Approved Of The Ring
The man said he was stunned by her reaction for a couple of reasons. He writes:
"Firstly, I had always been open in my distaste for the natural diamond industry, and secondly, because I had employed the assistance of her friends and mother and everyone agreed that she wouldn't care if the diamond was lab-grown."
The Diamond Is Guaranteed Conflict-Free And Indistinguishable From Natural Diamonds
He says that over the last few weeks, he has desperately tried to explain the benefits of lab-grown diamonds to his fiancée. For instance, it's better for the environment, they know the exact origin of the stone (therefore it's guaranteed to be conflict-free), and ultimately has a better value for the money spent.
Plus he says he "wanted to get her the most beautiful ring possible." Insisting that "lab-grown diamonds are in every way real diamonds and that they are also indistinguishable from natural ones unless you look at their certificate."
She Insists That She Can See A Difference Between Natural And Lab-Grown Diamonds
He continues: "I have also pointed out that she had no clue and would have never known if I hadn't told her the price of her ring. But she insists that she can tell a difference and it is just not the same."
Unfortunately, her distaste for the stone ended up escalating the situation.
She Asked Him To Exchange The Ring
The post continues to say that the woman asked her fiancé if he would be willing to exchange the lab-grown diamond for a stone of equivalent value.
He writes: "Normally I would be happy to, but I spent months searching for the perfect ring for her." Also, he highlights his concern about the possibility of ending up with a blood diamond from a conflict-torn area of the world.
He Told Her She Could Give Back The Ring And Leave Him
The man gave her a bit of an ultimatum since he wasn't comfortable with exchanging the ring. He told her if she wanted to "give the ring back" and end the relationship, he would be okay with that.
He said she called him an a**hole and decided to go stay with her parents. Her friends and family began sending him messages encouraging him to "acquiesce and exchange the ring," but he did not want to back down—unless maybe it meant saving his relationship.
Did He Make The Right Call?
Fellow Redditors in the community were quick to call out the woman for being shallow and closed-minded when it came to appreciating the diamond she was given.
Some people pointed out that if she truly loved him she would be willing to compromise on the ring, and maybe even educate herself on the benefits of lab-grown diamonds. The way I see it, Taylor Swift summed it up best when she said, "I like shiny things, but I'd marry you with paper rings." After all, the ring is just a symbol and it's the actual bond that counts.
Woman Calls Out Fiancé Online When She Finds The Receipt For 'Small' Engagement Ring
Getting engaged is an important step that many people spend years looking forward to. A part of that engagement is often the ring that comes along with it.
This is a piece of jewelry that you plan to wear for decades to come, and it's one of the first things people are probably going to ask to see if you're a woman who recently got engaged.
Showing Off The Ring Is Pretty Customary
Your friends and family are going to ask to see your ring, you'll maybe post a few pictures of it on your Instagram or Facebook for everyone to appreciate, and you'll look at it every day—you get the gist.
But what happens when the man of your dreams proposes with a ring that is nowhere close to what you dreamed of?
Sharing A Story With The World (Of Facebook)
One woman in the Facebook group MumsNet was the center of attention after making a now-deleted anonymous post about how she was "disappointed" with the ring her fiance chose because it was too small.
You'll understand why she deleted it soon enough.
The Only Part She Likes Is That It's A Solitaire Diamond
She admits that the diamond solitaire is what she would have chosen, but she doesn't like the color of the gold, the setting, or the small stone.
She also goes on to admit that she found the receipt for the purchase—and feels he didn't spend enough on her.
How Much "Should" An Engagement Ring Cost?
You're allowed to spend as much or as little as you would like on an engagement ring, obviously, but most of us have heard the old adage that you should spend three months' salary on a ring.
It can be a good marker for someone who doesn't know what they should spend, but it's certainly not a hard and fast rule to live by.
And How Much Do You Think You're Worth?
This woman, however, decided that she was worth much more than her fiancé spent on her. The engagement ring in question cost her fiance $1,674.
According to her, he makes a salary that is nearing the 6-figure range, and "he's usually very generous," so she expected him to be dropping some big bucks.
We Never Got To See The Ring In Question
Unfortunately for all of us curious minds, the Facebook post did not include a picture of the actual engagement ring, so you'll just have to use your imagination.
What she defines as "small" might be bigger than the ring your husband gave you. We'll never know!
What To Do, What To Do...
In her post, she writes that she thought he would have spent more money on her for "such a significant piece of jewelry."
No one is debating whether or not she's correct in saying it's a significant piece of jewelry; it's more about how she seems a little ungrateful for it.
She Knows He'll Be Upset If She Tells Him
The woman also says that she knows her fiancé would be upset if she admitted she wasn't happy with the ring, which is why she's making the post.
She turned to Facebook in hopes of getting some friendly advice about what to do and asked if anyone else had ever been in this situation.
The Internet Was Not Helpful
We're not sure what reaction she was expecting to receive from this Facebook group, but she definitely didn't receive any support.
Many other women commented on the post talking about the inexpensive engagement rings they have and emphasizing that it's about the marriage, not the jewelry.
Now I Ain't Saying She's A Gold Digger...
One woman in the MumsNet group even went so far as to suggest that her well-off fiancé might be testing her by giving her a small ring to see her reaction and see if she's only interested in his money.
If this is the case, she definitely did not pass the test.
Some Gave Her The Sympathy She Was Seeking
The majority of the commenters seemed to be in agreement that this woman was being overly materialistic, but a few women did sympathize with her for wanting an expensive piece of jewelry.
However, no one agreed with her exposing her future husband like this.
So What's The Verdict?
The post has since been deleted, but the forum post sparked a conversation.
Is this woman wrong for wanting a beautiful, sparkly diamond ring to wear for the next 40 years? No, but she's also not right for humiliating her fiancé like this.
